Train yourself to nail Hinge openers

Pattern match across these 10 real examples

Dec 19, 2024

My clients put my NSA formula for winning Hinge openers into action immediately after I shared my guide last week. (The above client text is modified for privacy.)

They also shared these 2 concerns that I’ll troubleshoot with you here:

I tried your NSA formula for a few days and haven’t gotten any matches yet!

It’s early! Run an experiment with different openers and see what sticks.

You’ll also get faster with more reps. I expect it to take <60 seconds to write a solid opener.

It’s also normal and expected that some people will not respond. (I’ve seen this across clients.) Remember, you’re looking for one life partner.

If you’ve sent 30 quality openers with 0 matches, let’s work together to debug what else could be going wrong with your app strategy. Comment below or DM me about your issue so we can troubleshoot together.

I want to train my mental model for writing great openers.

Definitely. Training your intuition takes examples and reps. Here are 10 more real examples you can draw inspiration from. Feel free to adapt to your own voice.

Recap: How to use the NSA formula to write a winning opener

Pick a specific topic on their profile you want to comment on.

Send a comment with the “NSA” formula: Name + Share + Ask (NSA)

🏷️ [Name]!
🤗 [Share: comment on a specific topic sharing more about yourself]
🙋 [Ask: specific, meaningful question on that topic to further the conversation]

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3 real client examples, broken down

(I’ve modified for privacy and used my name as an example.)

Example 1 breakdown:

Name: ✅
Share: My client mentioning their own list of 50 countries they’re working through shows that they have their own travel goals.
Ask: This question is specific to the prompt and probes more into why this goal is important to them, which invites a meaningful conversation.

Example 2 breakdown:

Name: ✅
Share: My client conveys that they share this person’s value of curiosity and even plays question games to get to know people better.
Ask: This question is both meaningful and cheeky, as it invites further deep conversation.

Example 3 breakdown:

Name: ✅
Ask: My client showed that they’re a little competitive with the unique 95% question.
Share: My client shared their own related feat that tied to a specific interest mentioned in the prompt.

(Yes, you can have some fun with the NSA formula by switching the order of the Ask and the Share!)