This Hinge opener led to a relationship 📱

Use this 3-step formula to bait your future partner 🎣

Too often, I’ve seen clients send openers like:

• “I like travel too!”

• “Hey! How was your weekend?”

• Or, worst of all, just a like without a comment 😵

These don’t get you noticed by the right people.

That’s why I teach my clients a simple 3-step formula that makes people like their future partner feel excited to respond.

Curious how it works?

I’ll show you a real client example that led to a relationship ❤️‍🔥 and break down my 3-step formula.

The TikTok version of this guide is at the bottom 😉

Real client example

(I’ve modified for privacy and used my name as an example.)

Outcome: My client is now in a long-term committed relationship ❤️‍🔥. Their partner loved this opener because it made my client stand out and encouraged them to respond with excitement.

Why it worked:

1. Name: Addressing them by name caught their attention.

2. Share: Mentioning a shared interest (book recs), a platform (Goodreads), and a specific book (sci-fi novel) showcased personality and thoughtfulness. They also conveyed that they (1) have many friends and (2) are thoughtful because they recommend books to their friends.

3. Ask: “What do you suggest I read next” resembles an actual conversation they might have in person and builds on their relationship together vs. something more generic like “what’s your top book rec?” is less connecting and more factual.

My 3-step formula

Now it’s your turn.

Pick a specific topic on their profile you want to comment on.

Send a comment with this “NSA” formula: Name + Share + Ask (NSA)

🏷️ [Name]!
🤗 [Share: comment on a specific topic sharing more about yourself]
🙋 [Ask: specific question on that topic to further the conversation]

Flip the script

Review inbound comments for quality. Appreciate thoughtful openers over simple likes.

If someone only sends a like but you match, kick things off with the NSA formula (Name + Share + Ask).

Want more help?

I coach clients to master sending standout messages and evaluating pre-date texts. This sharpens their life partner “picker” and helps them get off the apps and find their person faster.

I can’t wait to hear about your amazing openers!

Love,
Joyce ❤️‍🔥

P.S. Have an opener you’re proud of or one that wowed you? Share it with me!

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Watch this guide on TikTok and Instagram!

@thejoycezhangThe 3-step Hinge opener formula that helped this client find their partner 👇 Too often, I’ve seen clients send openers like: “I like travel too!” “Hey! How was your weekend?” Or, worst of all, just a like without a comment 😵 These don’t get you noticed by the right people. That’s why I teach my clients a simple 3-step formula that makes people like their future partner feel excited to respond. Curious how it works? I break down my “NSA method” (Name + Share + Ask) in my new guide, The 3-Step Hinge Opener Formula. One person who tried it called this approach “low lift high effectiveness—never got such substantive responses before!” 👉 Grab it here (link in bio). Follow me for more advice that helped 5 clients get into relationships in the last 10 months! #datingcoach #datingadvice #datingtips #coaching

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