The #1 pre-date mistake I see
This one text saved me and my clients dozens of wasted dates
The #1 pre-date mistake: not getting clear intentions from day one.
Introducing "Hardballing": clearly stating your intentions before you invest time, energy, and money into a date.
Why it's a game-changer:
(1) Save time by aligning intentions upfront. Imagine avoiding the disappointment of finding out, 3 dates in, that your match is looking for something totally different (life partner vs. casual, kids vs. no kids, etc.). Hardballing allows you to screen for these dealbreakers early.
(2) Get an instant read on their emotional availability. Sharing your intentions is a vulnerable move. Are they receptive and respectful, or do they get distant or dismiss you? Their reaction is a strong signal for how they’ll handle deeper conversations down the line.
Here's what happened when I hardballed in this past example:
1/ They appreciated my transparency and intentionality.
2/ They confirmed they are looking for the same.
3/ They reciprocated my transparency by disclosing their current dating situation.
4/ Their investment in a potential other connection shows that they are intentional about dating seriously and respectful about focusing on people.
Because of their openness and respect, I felt warmth and confidence in the connection. And yes, they reached back out :)
"But hardballing feels intense!"
If you’re nervous, ask yourself why. How clear are you on your own dating goals? What would help you feel confident expressing them?
💡 Action item: Hardball with your next date!
Share with me how it goes!
Love,
Joyce ❤️🔥