3 foolproof Hinge prompts to attract your future partner
The exact prompt sequence my clients use to attract better dates
The lowest-hanging fruit for better matches? Refresh your prompts.
Think of your profile as a beacon. Great prompts help your future partner spot you in a sea of the 200 profiles they review every week.
After revamping 100+ profiles, swiping through 1,000s myself, and studying profile optimization with 2 dating app experts, I’ve created a technique that consistently works:
Polarizing Prompts attract the right people (and repel the rest)
1️⃣ They filter strongly
Trying to appeal to everyone leads to a sea of meh matches. Strong magnets repel and attract. Your profile should feel like it was written for one person: your future partner.
2️⃣ They show your values, not just your vibes
The best prompts aren’t lists. They’re tiny windows into what life with you feels like. That attracts people who share your values and vision.
The 3 Polarizing Prompts
I recommend this sequence, designed to filter upfront and build emotional resonance. These are my actual prompts that my partner saw!
Prompt 1️⃣: Non-negotiable
Recommended Hinge prompt: “The hallmark of a good relationship is”
Choose a top non-negotiable: the opposite of what ended past relationships. E.g., “They are vulnerable and self-aware”.
A Polarizing Prompt like this screens for emotional intelligence and filters out emotionally unavailable matches.
Prompt 2️⃣: Relationship vision
Recommended Hinge prompt: “My simple pleasures”
Describe in vivid detail the everyday life you want with your future partner, not just hobbies you enjoy solo.
❌ Avoid: “Hiking, cooking, traveling”
A Polarizing Prompt like this helps aligned people understand what it’d be like to date you and opt in (or out) fast.
Prompt 3️⃣: Life vision
Recommended prompt: “A life goal of mine”
Choose a partner who will support your dreams. This invites your person to see your future and picture themselves in it.
A Polarizing Prompt like this calls in people who appreciate not just Current You but also Future You.
Homework
📝 Tonight’s task: Rewrite your prompts using the 3 formulas above.
Polarizing Prompts helped me and my clients find love faster. And when you model excellence, you raise the bar for everyone.
Love,
Joyce ❤️🔥
this is such a great tip too! so it makes me feel ok if i send messages that some people don’t respond to well - that’s a good thing because i am not trying to be all things to all people. i just started reading your posts and they are SO practical and helpful!